Summer is a favorite season for many people. Unfortunately, when you are grieving the loss of a loved one the first summer without them can bring about many challenges. Holidays, parties, and trips may no longer be as fun without your loved one. These events can trigger memories that can in turn magnify your grief.
There are several major holidays that occur in the summer. If these were important holidays for you and your loved one you may find them difficult to cope with. The extra time off may leave you feeling more alone. This can be even more difficult given that parties and gatherings where you might have been able to spend time with other loved ones may be limited due to social distancing. It may be helpful to plan ahead for these holiday breaks. If you can’t be with other friends or family, try to plan an activity to keep busy. You can make plans to talk or video chat with friends and family if you can’t see them in person.
On the other hand, there may be some smaller group gatherings happening and you may decide you don’t want to attend. This is okay too. If you find you are able to spend a holiday with friends and family, it’s ok to leave early if you get tired or overwhelmed.
Summer is a big travel season for most people. If you and your loved one used to travel together, it can be difficult to get used to traveling alone. You may also find that your travel plans will have to be adjusted or canceled due to current restrictions.
If you are still able to keep your travel plans, make sure to plan activities to keep yourself busy. You may also want to make plans to check in regularly with other friends and family while you are on your trip.
However, if your travel plans are canceled, you may want to plan a staycation at home. Try doing something that you wouldn’t normally do. Visit some new spots near your home for a hike, try a new class (online if necessary), or try some new water sports such as paddle boarding or kayaking.
Remember to continue to reach out to friends and family and take care of yourself. Though this season of grief is challenging, keep in mind that you will eventually start to heal.