Many bereaved people find they must return to work before they are ready. This applies not only to those in the workforce, but to those who must return to social obligations, such as a volunteer position or church group, soon after a loss.
Many bereaved people find they must return to work before they are ready. This applies not only to those in the workforce, but to those who must return to social obligations, such as a volunteer position or church group, soon after a loss.
If you must return to a work or social setting while you are still grieving, here are some tips:
If possible, ease yourself back in.
If you have to go back and you aren’t quite ready, see if you can arrange to transition back by doing some half days for a while or by working only a few days a week and giving yourself more down days.
Know your grief will still be there.
Even if you feel like you are healing and that work will be a welcome distraction, know that your grief has not left you. You may be surprised at where and when your grief strikes.
Be gentle with others and expect a range of reactions.
People may not be aware of your loss and if they are, they may not know exactly what to say.
Utilize the resources that your workplace offers.
Many Human Resources departments offer services such as counseling, assistance, and referrals. Don’t hesitate to ask if you feel you need outside support.
Take care of yourself.
As best as you can, get adequate sleep, eat well, and make time for exercise. Grief is hard work and some self-care can go a long way.
Consider appointing an ambassador.
It may be helpful to appoint someone to let others know your situation. They can answer questions on your behalf and let others know how you are feeling and if you would like to talk about your loss or not.
Create breaks in your schedule when possible.
Give yourself some extra downtime in the day if possible. Try to avoid scheduling meetings back to back so that you have breathing room.
Find a place to go when you need to be alone.
Crying at work is no fun, but it’s likely to happen. Try to find a place to go when you need some space, even if it’s your car, the bathroom, or a room/office with a door you can close.
Most of all, do not be afraid to ask for help.
More than likely, your friends and co-workers want to help, but they may not know the best way possible.
